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Thursday, December 31, 2009

'Perfect' Exists in an Imperfect Way


Last night, while once again trying to put in words what it is that I love about P!nk so much, I was led to this thought that 'perfect' does exist, but only in an 'imperfect' way. I'm sure you're wondering how this could possibly make sense... I decided that people can be considered perfect when they own their flaws. Once you are aware of all your flaws or weaknesses, accept your flaws/weaknesses, and allow others to see any flaws/weaknesses you have with no shame, then, and only then, are you 'perfect'. You are who you are, and you are 'perfect' the way you are. With this acceptance of your flaws, you have actually made your flaws into a kind of strength. A strength in defining who you are. Trying to improve on any weakness is, of course, encouraged if it's possible. But you can't be 'perfect' without 'imperfection' - that is still impossible. So accept what you can't change. Embrace it, all your qualities combined makes your uniqueness - weaknesses are just as important as strengths.

This still leaves very few 'perfect' people in the world. How many people do you actually KNOW, really truly know? Emotional weaknesses are even more important that physical (skill related) weaknesses. I can say, that in my life, the only person I consider to be 'perfect' is Pink. There is no one else who owns their emotions, and accepts their weaknesses. It's either one or the other, or neither. I personally do neither at 100%. I
do internally accept most of my weaknesses, but I have never ever been comfortable with my emotions in a way that I could open up to anyone. That requires a strength I don't have (awareness though - first step).

Steps to Perfection:
1. Be aware of your weaknesses
2. Accept your weaknesses internally
3. Own your weaknesses externally
4. Be aware of your emotions
5. Accept your emotions internally
6. Own your emotions externally

Even with this definition of 'perfect', it is expected of no one. Those 6 steps may seem easy to some, but honestly they can be the most challenging steps in life. Truly owning yourself takes a serious amount of courage. With that said - courage is the only thing that can bring perfection. Courage is one flaw you can't have in order to accomplish perfection. Everyone has 'courage' in one way or another, but I'm thinking you need to be in the close to the 99th percentile to accomplish imperfect perfection.

Thoughts???

Monday, December 28, 2009

Normal is Boring

What’s all this never ending hype about keeping up with the Jones’s, fitting in, doing something because everyone else is, possessing something because everyone else does, looking the same, being the same. Why does everyone want to be the same as everyone else? Where’s the fun in that? Normal is boring, people.

Every person in this world is different. Why do most of us try and be the same? I’m not saying I’ve never been guilty of this, but I have grown out of it. Everyone should be embracing all the variety in the world. We should want to learn different things, and open our minds to new interests. By trying to be normal, we are only limiting greatness, and wasting wonderful things in the world.

What is ‘normal’ anyway?? As a teenager: Is it wearing Abercrombie and Fitch? If you’re a boy, enjoying only sports and family guy on television. If you’re a girl, watching MTV and soap operas? Is it going out and partying all the time, and having sex? (Some reasons why my friend says she isn’t a ‘normal teenager’.) In general, is being normal; graduating high school & continuing to college, getting married before you’re 30, popping out a few kids shortly after, working the classic ‘9-5’ schedule, having the perfect happy family? – When in reality, more often than not, that “perfectly happy family” does not go beyond that “Family Portrait”.

My friend brought up a good question… After a short conversation on how she doesn’t feel like she is a normal teenager, and after me stating “normal is boring”… she said “But Mel… if normal is boring, then how come they aren’t bored with their lives? Yet, you say you are bored with yours and I am bored with mine in some aspects, and just, how the heck can normal be boring yet the normal’s aren’t bored?”

So is it because they are so ‘into’ trying to be normal that they haven’t realized how boring that actually is? They stay entertained because they are so wrapped up into making sure they are normal, and making sure they fit in, that they don’t even think outside of their bubble of ‘being normal’. -- This would also be connected to “Stupid Girls” – a song by Pink, written about all the girls in the world who dumb themselves down to fit a certain image (of normal?). In that case, and in most cases, you could also consider normal as being “cool” (gag). -- It’s hard to be bored with your life if you are unaware of the other ways you could be living it. But when you look outside of your world, into the world, and see all the variety, and comprehend all the opportunities, it’s much easier to realize how boring ‘normal’ actually is. -- And you also realize just how difficult it is to break out of the normal lifestyle, as society has made it very difficult to make it in the world by doing things your own way. (But we’ll get into that another time)…

I am bored with being normal. But even more than just being bored with it, I am frustrated with it. I am highly against the ‘normal’ lifestyle. I have been normal for far too long. In my life right now, my ‘normal’ is not me trying to keep up with the Jones’s with owning the latest most trendy things, or fitting in by liking the same things as ‘everyone’ else. My normal is the; spend thousands of dollars on an education to get a good job that will be the classic ‘9-5’ schedule… knowing that that schedule will only make me old and tired, faster. Normal, to me, is also settling. I don’t want to settle for that life style. I want to get out of where I am, and try something that I love, that I can make a decent living from, while living a fulfilling life.

Also, I am not saying you aren’t allowed to like ‘normal’ things. You like what you like, just don’t be afraid to like what others may not. Stand proud, and don’t compromise yourself for anyone.

Enough 'normal' talk for me, now it’s time for you to share your thoughts on what being ‘normal’ means to you, and why you think those who are considered ‘normal’ are not bored with their lives?

Sunday, December 27, 2009

The Swing of Things


So after a week of having this blog I am finally actually writing... that is what this is for, isn't it? So lets hit the basics. The past year has been a huge turning point for me. A good turning point, but also leaving me... quite lost. In the midst all off my 'changing' ... but more of 'discovering' than actual changing. I have become very fond of thinking. Thinking - we all do it, but there are sooo many different levels of thinking, and I can say I have reached a very good-advanced-painful level of thinking. Good, because I get so much pleasure out of all my new opinions and - even more - questions I've developed. Advanced, because I have finally escaped from the bubble you get forced into through society of focusing on yourself and doing everything the way you're 'supposed' to (we'll get more into that later), and instead, now focus my thoughts on everything in the world, and why it is the way it is. And painful, because the would outside that bubble is not very pretty.

I owe my 'escape from my bubble' to Pink - no, not the color - the singer/performer/most incredible person alive (who I'm sure I will reference quite often). I also owe it to a very good friend I have met because of Pink, and a book "Anam Cara" by John O'Donohue, which the same very good friend recommended I read. - In the end, my self-discovering would not have occurred if it weren't for the amazing influence of Pink (and my slight - but in reality not-so-slight obsession I have for her)... Who can blame me? I just explained that she is the reason for my self-discovery.

Enough rambling for the day... Follow me if you're up for questioning the world - however, if you're still stuck in that bubble, that many people can't seem to ever escape - this may not be the blog for you. :)