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Monday, September 12, 2011

Approach Each Obstacle With Grace

I've watched my emotions and insecurities get the best of me many times. I've let them be the rational for my behavior. I've let them keep me from rising above, from being the best I can be. I've acted selfish, and less than kind when they've taken over. I haven't approached each obstacle with grace. I've approached many with grace, but many without. Now this is one of my biggest goals. To be able to rise above, to no matter the situation, stay composed and make the healthiest and kindest decisions. To not justify any poor behavior with the circumstances. This doesn't mean I can't be sad, or angry. It also doesn't mean I can't cry, or express my emotions to others. It only means I don't take things out on other people, and I don't let it take over my mindset. I stay true to myself, I treat everyone the best I can, I treat myself the best I can. I stay mentally and physically healthy, I behave in a way that makes me proud, and that others can respect.

Friday, September 9, 2011

Unconditional Love

I've noticed how most people choose not to love unconditionally. Their love is conditional. I don't think it matters if it's family, a friend, or a loved one. If the person is someone you actually truly care about then you should love them unconditionally. When a person makes mistakes, whether it affects you directly or not, I think forgiveness is the most important thing. I think what people need to understand is that everyone has insecurities, and these insecurities lead to their flawed actions. Everyone makes mistakes. Some are more conscious than others, but nearly all are caused by their personal insecurities, of course not all, some are due to a lack of experience or knowledge or whatever else.

As a person, I'm always trying to be the best I can be. I've been forced to really look in the mirror lately as my intimate relationship became something I have to fight for. Once I pulled my crushed heart out of the mix, and could really see how things were, and why they were that way, I was able to realize that all the things I had to fix on my end began with my insecurities. I began by realizing some of my behavior which was pushing her away. And from that I tried to understand why I'd behave that way. And once I got these answers, I was able to see clearly what my insecurities were, and that they were the base of my problems. In order to become a stronger, healthier, better person, and in order to help fix my relationship, I had to start by understanding my insecurities, and noticing when they would take over, and cause me to behave poorly. I think I've successfully done that. I haven't eliminated my insecurities, but I now catch myself thinking in these ways, and instead of acting in a way that matches my insecure emotion, I stop myself. I over power it with reason.

Now, wouldn't you rather stick around to watch your friends, family, and lover grow, than disappear on them because of an insecurity (or 10)? I would. The more insecurities people have, the less happy they can truly be. I'd rather give them one more reason to be happy by being there for them, and give them (almost) all the chances they need to become a better, stronger person than run from them when clearly they need the friend. I think when you actually care about a person's well-being and happiness, that means unconditional. If it's conditional, it means nothing. Accept. Forgive. Believe. Love. It's simple. It's not always easy, but it's simple.

In my eyes, those who have found a way to become the most secure with themselves, or at least control their insecurities, are the happiest, kindest, strongest people. You'll know these people when you see them too. They go about their life, not hating on people, not needing to gossip, or say a mean word. They won't let the cruel get to them because they'll understand those who aren't kind, aren't happy. They'll stick around to help, and they'll make the best decisions. These are the people who become hero's. Last, and most importantly, they'll approach each obstacle with grace. Which leads me to my next entry...